Clear Creek County Advocates - Peace Begins at Home
Domestic Violence


Domestic violence is a crime. It is the physical harm, bodily injury, assault, or the infliction of fear or imminent physical harm, bodily injury or assault between household or family members.

Domestic violence occurs in a cycle. Battering is an intentional act used to gain power and control over the other person.


  • Stage I – Tension BuildingTension exists between the family members. It is displayed by the batterer becoming increasingly irritable, jealous, or threatening.
  • Stage II – ExplosionThe battering incident. The tension becomes unbearable and is uncontrollably discharged.
  • Stage III – The Honeymoon
    The batterer is extremely loving and apologetic. Gifts are often given along with promises that the abuse will never happen again. Then it begins again.

The precipitating factor is usually some event unrelated to the victim’s behavior.
The State of Colorado has a domestic violence law mandating physical arrest and formal charges for those who commit domestic violence.

Characteristics of the Batterer

  • Found in all socioeconomic, educational, ethnic, racial, and age groups.
  • Uses psychological, verbal, and physical abuse, including sexual abuse.
  • Emotionally dependent, subject to secret depression known only to family, low self esteem, insatiable ego, overwhelming need to be right.
  • Belief that forcible behavior is aimed at securing the family nucleus.
  • General history of abuse.
  • Believes victim is personal property or possession, is to blame for problems, is crazy or out of control, victim deserves abuse.
  • Limited tolerance for frustration, demonstrates anger but often masks it, explosive temper.
  • Alcohol or drugs are often involved.

Characteristics of the Victim

  • Found in all socioeconomic, educational, ethnic, racial, and age groups.
  • Is psychologically, verbally, and physically abused, and uses sex to establish intimacy.
  • Emotionally and economically dependent, subject to depression, home accidents, low self-esteem, and is unsure of own needs.
  • Belief that transient acceptance of violent behavior will ultimately lead to a long-term resolution of family problems.
  • Generational history of witnessing abuse in family and/or being used.
  • Complaint, helpless, powerless, and accepts all blame.
  • At high risk for secret use of alcohol and drugs.
  • Frequently wishes partner were dead and frequently contemplates suicide.


There are 5 leading factors causing death in a domestic violence situation. If all questions below have a “yes” answer, the victim is in real danger of being killed when or shortly after a violent dispute erupts.

  1. Has the suspect ever choked you or put their hands around your neck, threatening to choke you?
  2. Have children been present during this or other incidents of domestic abuse?
  3. Has the suspect ever threatened to hurt or kill you? Have they ever threatened to hurt or kill other family members? Have they ever threatened to hurt or kill themselves?
  4. Has the suspect ever violated a “No Contact” order or other court orders regarding custody or probation?
  5. Does the suspect have access to weapons? Have they ever used a weapon to threaten or hurt you?

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